New Therapies and Approaches for Working Through Grief
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Grief can be an unpredictable process that doesn’t follow a straight path with a fixed timeline or specific steps to follow. If you’ve recently lost a loved one, there are helpful therapies and compassionate approaches available designed to support you in working through grief at your own pace.
Modern grief care recognizes that grief is different for everyone and there is no single “right” way to heal, combining classic frameworks like stages of grief with more flexible approaches such as tasks of mourning.
In this article, we’ll explore these approaches to grief to help you understand what you’re going through and share tips to help you adapt and move through it.
At 3HC, we recognize that grief does not have a set timeline and that everyone experiences it differently. We offer both bereavement support groups and individual support to help you process emotions and work through the stages of grief at your own pace. We invite you to get in touch with us to learn more and get care.
What Are the 5 Stages of Grief?
You’ve probably heard about the 5 stages of grief, the common emotional responses people may experience after a loss.
The 5 stages of this classic framework include:
- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Depression
- Acceptance
It’s helpful to keep in mind that grief looks different for everybody. It’s not expected that you would move through these stages in order. You may experience several of these emotions at once, revisit some of the stages several times or even skip stages altogether.
Grief can also show up:
- Physically as fatigue or tightness in the chest
- Cognitively as confusion, disbelief or difficulty concentrating
- Behaviorally as withdrawal or restlessness
What Are the Tasks of Mourning?
The “tasks of mourning” idea is a more flexible way to understand grief. This concept recognizes that grief doesn’t necessarily happen in stages but instead is an active process you work through gradually, often in a non-linear fashion.
While the stages of grief can help you understand the emotions you’re going through, the tasks of mourning offer a more active way to navigate those emotions.
As previously mentioned, you might experience different parts of healing over time, revisit certain stages and skip others, working back and forth between “tasks.”
The four tasks of mourning include:
- Accepting the reality of the loss
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- While you may understand, intellectually, that the loss is real, emotional acceptance takes longer. Grief may resurface during holidays, significant dates or milestones or in unexpected moments.
- Processing the pain of grief
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- It’s important to allow yourself to feel difficult emotions rather than avoid them. Grief can affect the body and the mind, showing up mentally, physically and emotionally; moving on too fast can prolong the healing process.
- Adapting to life without the person you lost
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- This may include practical changes like taking on new daily responsibilities, internal shifts in your identity and beliefs or spiritual adjustments such as questioning your purpose.
- Maintaining a connection while moving forward
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- Moving forward does not mean forgetting or letting go. You can find ways to honor memories of your loved one and maintain important rituals as you continue living your life.
How Can You Work Through the Grieving Process?
Working through the grieving process is about learning to adjust and adapt over time, not coming to a specific endpoint or approaching grief like a problem to fix.
Working through the grieving process can involve:
- Allowing yourself to experience the full range of reactions, conflicting emotions and physical symptoms – all of which are valid
- Balancing experiencing grief with giving yourself space to take breaks from it to engage in everyday life, which helps prevent feelings of overwhelm
- Rebuilding daily life gradually by taking small steps to reestablish your regular routines, while modifying expectations around energy, productivity and capacity
- Creating meaning by reflecting on the relationship you had with your loved one and how it continues to contribute to and shape your life
As we’ve already shared, grief does not have a set timeline or series of steps to check off. The goal isn’t to “get over” the loss, but rather, to accept it and allow yourself to feel it while adapting to a changed life, as you remain meaningfully connected to your loved one. This is how healing takes place.
7 Practical Tips for Working Through Grief
While the different ways people experience grief are deeply personal, there are practical tips that can help support you through the process.
These approaches include:
- Getting emotional support, via talking to trusted friends, family members, counselors or as part of a grief support group
- Prioritizing healthy habits, such as quality sleep, good nutrition, physical movement and stress management techniques
- Practicing mental strategies like journaling or quiet reflection and limiting major decisions during early grief
- Using behavioral practices, including maintaining small routines like daily walks, waking at the same time each day and regular meals to provide a sense of stability and normalcy
- Alternating between solitude and social connection, depending on what feels manageable for you
- Maintaining a connection with the person you lost by creating rituals around anniversaries and other milestones, revisiting shared memories and through continuing meaningful traditions
- Expressing feelings through writing or other creative outlets
While these practices can help you manage grief, sometimes additional support may be needed.
If grief is interfering with your ability to function or you’re experiencing prolonged grief with symptoms that don’t ease over time, seeking professional help is often the next best step.
Our Caring Team at 3HC is Here to Support You Through the Complicated Journey of Grief
While the stages of grief can help you understand the emotions you’re experiencing after a loss, and the tasks of mourning offer an active way to navigate them, ultimately, grief is a personal journey that doesn’t follow a specific schedule or checklist.
At 3HC, we recognize that everyone experiences grief differently and that there is no set timeline for healing. Our grief care services include both grief support groups and individual support through a Bereavement Care Team member to help you process emotions and work through your grief journey at your own pace.
We’ve been helping North Carolina families discover how to move forward and heal since 1981. We encourage you to get in touch with us to learn more and get care.
Key Takeaways
- Grief is an unpredictable, non-linear process with no fixed timeline or single “right” way to heal.
- Modern grief care combines traditional ideas like the five stages of grief with more flexible approaches such as the tasks of mourning.
- The five stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—are common emotional responses but are not experienced in a set order.
- The tasks of mourning frame grief as an active, ongoing process rather than a sequence of stages.
- The four tasks of mourning include accepting the reality of the loss, processing pain, adapting to life without the person and maintaining a connection while moving forward.
- Healing involves allowing difficult emotions rather than avoiding them and recognizing that grief may resurface over time.
- Adjusting to grief includes gradually rebuilding daily routines, balancing engagement with rest and creating meaning from the relationship with the loved one.
- Practical coping strategies include seeking emotional support, maintaining healthy habits, using reflection or creative outlets and balancing solitude with social connection.
- If grief becomes overwhelming or persists without improvement over time, professional help may be necessary.
- 3HC offers grief care services via individual and group support to help families heal and move forward.
The content within this article and others on this website is only for educational purposes and should not be considered as medical advice. For any questions or concerns, please consult with your healthcare provider.
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Sources:
Our House Grief Support Center, “Worden’s Four Tasks of Mourning,”
https://www.ourhouse-grief.org/grief-pages/grieving-adults/four-tasks-of-mourning/
U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs, “Grief Reactions, Duration, and Tasks of Mourning,”
https://www.va.gov/WHOLEHEALTHLIBRARY/docs/Grief-Reactions.pdf

